Someone says something that lands wrong, and suddenly you’re reacting before you’ve even thought. Words fly out, doors slam, or you go completely silent. Then comes the regret. Your nervous system is simply doing what it’s wired to do.
Ten positive comments and one criticism. Which one loops through your mind? If the negative thought wins every time, you’re experiencing cognitive distortions, the thinking patterns that filter reality through anxiety, self-blame, and worst-case scenarios. These aren’t character flaws; they’re learned responses that once made sense but now keep you stuck. This article explores the most common thinking traps, why they develop, and how person-centred counselling helps you develop a more balanced, compassionate relationship with your thoughts.